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What is bullying?

Bullying is someone being deliberately hurtful to others over a period of time either physically, verbally or indirectly such as ignoring them. It is an abuse of power or strength and can happen anywhere, to anyone regardless of age or gender.

If I feel my child is being bullied in school who do I report it to?

You should contact the school as soon as possible and report the incident(s) to your son or daughters pupil support teacher who will investigate the incident and deal with the outcomes. 

Can I come to the school building to speak to someone directly if I am concerned about my child being bullied?

While we understand it can be upsetting to hear your child may being bullied we would always ask that in the first instance you contact your son/daughters pupil support teacher via phone or email. Pupil support teachers have teaching commitments and are not always available to meet a parent/carer who arrives at the school without any notice.

What if the bullying does not stop?

Once we have investigated and dealt with an incident, we try to check on how things are between the two parties after a short period.  However, if you have evidence that the matter is not resolved, please contact the pupil support teacher as soon as possible.  If the bullying has continued, this would be taken as an even more serious matter and appropriate steps will be taken to resolve the issue.

Should I speak to the parents/carers of the person bullying my child myself?

In our experience, this can often escalate rather than resolve the issue.  We would advise that parents contact the school.  However, matters outside school, for example, evenings or weekends including anything via social media or mobile phones, can also be reported to our school based police officer.

My child has fallen out with her friend who has said some unpleasant things about her.  Would the school class this as bullying?

Unfortunately, children do fall out with friends from time to time.  This can result in children saying unkind things to one another.  Most of these situations are quickly resolved and the children “make up” after a short time, generally both being very sorry for the hurt they have caused one another.  However, if the situation continues over a period of time, this can become bullying in nature, and needs intervention to ensure that this stops.  If you let us know of any incidents in school, then we will pick this up with the children concerned.

My child has fallen out with friends and is now being excluded by a group of pupils, what should I do?

As a school we would never attempt to force children into friendships.  However, if pupils are deliberately causing pupils to be excluded then this would be considered as a form of bullying and will be dealt with accordingly by the school. 

What is cyber bullying?

Cyber bullying is when a person, or a group of people, uses the internet, mobile phones or other digital technologies to threaten, tease or abuse someone.  This is illegal and can be reported to the police.

My child has received abusive messages on a social network site.  What should I do?

Please refer to the Cyberbullying section for information and advice.

My child has retaliated to being bullied by another pupil, and is now being punished.  How is this fair?

While we understand the upset bullying can cause to the parents of a child we do not believe retaliation to be an acceptable response. We don’t accept physical violence as a solution to a problem.  If a child is being bullied, they must report it to the school so that appropriate action can be taken and we make our best efforts to resolve any issues as best we can.  We never advise students to take matters into their own hands as this can escalate the problem, or even develop into bullying itself.   

Will I be informed of the sanctions given to the pupil who has bullied my child?

We will inform the parents that the student has been dealt with and a sanction has been issued. However, the details of this sanction will not necessarily be shared as these are a private matter about another student.

What do I do if I don’t agree with your policy on bullying or how the school has dealt with an allegation of bullying?

As always, if you feel an approach is unfair or unreasonable, then please follow the advised complaints procedure. This can be found here http://bonessacademy.com/contact_us/how_to_make_a_complaint.html